How to Survive Break-ups by the Relationship Journalist January 7, 2008
Posted by janargy in Love.trackback
To successfully survive and thrive after a breakup, savvy breakup survivors know that they can’t heal and move on without a little help from their friends. And that’s where the Boo-Hoo Crew comes in. Part cheerleader, part therapist, your Boo-Hoo Crew should be reliable, patient and consist of at least three friends for round-the-clock supervision and support.
The role of the Boo-Hoo Crew is to provide the following:
- a shoulder to cry on
- a voice of reason
- damage control (in case you get the urge to contact your ex)
- the bright side
Tips for assembling the perfect Boo-Hoo Crew
Not everyone’s cut out to be a Boo-Hoo Crew member. It’s important to recruit only those friends who are up to the challenge. While assembling your crew, keep the following considerations in mind:
- Include only those friends who are loving and supportive.
- Exclude any so-called friends who might say things like “I told you so,” brag about their own relationship, or ask if they can call your ex (in fact, dump these “friends” immediately!).
- Do not include any mutual friends who might report back to your ex on your progress (and/or dish about your setbacks).
The Boo-Hoo Crew code of honor
During your slump, your Boo-Hoo Crew should be available 24/7. It may sound like a tremendous commitment, but that’s what friends are for. You’d do it for them (if you haven’t already). And let’s face it: there are times in life when you have to sleep in shifts. This just happens to be one of those times.
There are also going to be times when you’ll obsess about your ex, times when you’ll want your ex back, and times when all you can think about is picking up the phone and calling your ex. These are the times when you should rely on your Boo-Hoo Crew for support.
You’ll want to choose friends who know you well enough to know when you need comfort versus when you need a kick in the pants. Friends who can remind you of the nitpicky negative things you once said about your ex that you’re going to forget when you’re wishing you two were still together. Your Boo-Hoo Crew should always know (and be able to remind you) why your ex wasn’t good for you then, and why he or she is definitely not worth pining over now.
When we’re in post-breakup mode, some of us have trouble reaching out to others. We think asking for help is a sign of weakness, but it’s not. It’s a show of strength. So go out there and recruit the best Boo-Hoo Crew ever! (Right now.)
hahahahaha!!!! Boo-Hoo Crew ?
this article is good, creative, and convincing,,hehehehe
and about my coment about break-up i posted it already in the recent post….
“Minsan mahirap balikan ang isang baso na may lamat na baka kapag ininuman mo pa ay masugatan ka..”
very informative…. bka mgmit ko yan in the future
…hay naku….maganda ung article infairness….now meh idea n akoh…
mahirap din un..trying to move-on is never easy..but its very helpful for us..
all of them are useless if you cant.
“There are also going to be times when you’ll obsess about your ex, times when you’ll want your ex back, and times when all you can think about is picking up the phone and calling your ex.” >>damn!!! i feel this most of the times…hirap din ahh….di mapigilan…huhu..
these infos are really big help….thanks sir…
wow.. Boo-Hoo crew..
nice article..
aha..meet my Boo-Hoo Crew..
>BPS 4-2 pretty ladies..
>BPS 4-2 boys of all tyms..haha..
isang text brigade lang,anjan n tong mga to..
guys,kaya natin ung short film..c’mon..(nagplug..hehe..)
good article
waaaaah!!! di pa rin ako makarelate!!!
pero its a good article.. paghahanaan ko na ang future break up ko.. hahaha
_having a boo-hoo crew is a gud idea if you, yourself, is willing to move on at once..if not..its not effective..believe me!! its just a waste of time..(atah?)..
yyeeeehhheeeyyy..
wahahaha,, ilovemyfriendddsssss…
bethel, april, sha..
goranesss…!!!
boo-hoo crew, nice.. kaya lng d q n 2 kelngan ngaun eh..pero let us see..bka mgamit q s future..wg nman sna.. jeje!
kailan ko kaya magagamit to… sa tingin ko hindi ko magagamit to pagdating ng oras na yon…
boo hoo crew?pwede rin…cguro ung tlgang habit na ung pakikipagbreak kelangan nun…or ung wala tlgang outlet pra maka survive…its different with me kase..hahaha!
i cant relate.. T_T
I think i already found my Boo Hoo Crew..but im not Suffering any breakupÜ.If that time comes on my way,i hope my Boo Hoo Crew’s still there coz i really need one for sure..may nakuha rin akong dito sa article na toh ha..”We think asking for help is a sign of weakness, but it’s not. It’s a show of strength.”..really interesting..
hmm..i consider my friends as my boo-hoo crew..they provide me these: a shoulder to cry on,
a voice of reason,
damage control,
the bright side..
hAi…anG gnDA..
BkA SUMDAy AQ P MNGAiLngan ng
boo hoo cRew…jejeje
astig ok ung boo hoo crew ..kailangan talaga natin un pag may nanyaring break-up ..
sa part ng boo hoo crew naranasan k0 na ang maging member nun .. hehehe msaya kasi nakakagaan tayo ng loob ng taong sobrang down na ang nararamdaman..
sa part naman na sakin nanyari ang ganun.. xempre masarap sabihin ang lahat ng hinanakit na nasa loob natin.. kasi at least gumaan man lang ang loob natin..
nice article…full of idea…
Minsan kylangan din ng break up pra mging better person tau.. hahahah
Wla aqng alm jan.. hahahah mhrap ang ala png experience…
ayyy… no comment aqoh,,,!!!!!!! but i can be boo hoo crew!!!!!! sosyal!!!
boo hoo crew?
niging ganun na q. . . kaya lng i’m mister “i told you so ” ehh. . . kaya un. . . parang wala lang. . .
usually naman talaga sa friends tumatakbo yung mga broken-hearted, pano kase yung iba.. forbidden ang love affairs
boo-hoo crew, they are the best kasi sila ung crew that are not waiting for any salary. free lagi ang service nila.
i dont know,, i dont feel like asking for outlets/help when this cryng moments cme,,,well,, spartan life… but it really feel good when friends came and give you extra hand even without you asking for it…
thanks sirJan… i get to know my classmates well… its a healthful activity…
ah ok..ganun pala yun..nice article
may kumuha na sa akin bilang member ng boohoo crew. haha.
pwede mag-apply as BOO-HOO CREW?
ganda ng article.
Ok lng n my mga friends ka n pwedeng mong lapitan pero kahit ano png payo sabihin nila sayo sarili mo pa rin ang magde2sisyon kung anong dapat gawin.
Ikaw at ikaw pa rin.
i believe in that… im so blessed pala, kasi i have a lot of the best and true boo-hoo crew beside me, everytime i feel bad… and luckily, im not the type of person that will call up my ex para makipag frends… kaya nga ex di ba? thanx sa lahat ng boo-hoo crew ko…
nice sir!!!
good article…dapat dito pala ku mgconsult if ever na kailanganin ku….hehehe..
i don’t think na makikipagbalikan pa ako…
pinagsawaan na nya ako eh…
un na un…
pag naman nangyari yun… umaasa ako na may mga kaibigan akong hindi ako papabayaan…
nice article..tama yan!hirap bumalik sa nakaraan…
tama.. tama din sabi ng kabarkada ko bwahahaha.. weh di nga?? totoo hehe..
jez, 2net, ane,be ready..
hehe! wla lng!
all i can say just move on!!!!!!!!!
and if u like p ur ex follow the boohoo crew!!!!
wooooo…..break up n nmn?haaaaaayyyyyyyyyssssttttttt…bsata un n un…ung cnve ko dun sa isa..eeee
boo hoo crew, i think, is a great idea.. but, it is not applicable to everyone.. there are some who are not showy of their feelings and prefer to solve the problem alone,..
(kaya nga my ibang nasa mental na nagayon after maging heart broken)
wahahahaha!!!
nd aq pwde dun s boo-hoo crew ah hehe!!!
mkhulet ‘daw’ aq eh hehe. . .
n/a un saken ah!!! to start with wala nman aqng bf hehe
ganun!
yes, u feel better when ur frends are there to cheer u up..but for me, its better if we survive and moved on our own..because we learn how to become independent..
BOO HOO CREW…nice naman..
ayoko baka kame ang magkatuluyan!
nde. you really feel comfort with this person because she/he will be the one who can make you smile and even laugh although hurting hurting ka and that person will somehow make you realize that it is no yet the end of the world..MASAYA NA ULIT ANG BUHAY…
There are also going to be times when you’ll obsess about your ex, times when you’ll want your ex back, and times when all you can think about is picking up the phone and calling your ex<<<< grabe ,i always feel it most of the times after break up.. hehehe napaka informative.. pero magnda rin na u must learn in ur own mistake db? then ang friends pang back-up tlaga pag di mo na kaya
biter biteran? hahahahah!
boo hoo crew?
boo hoo crew ko eh e2 lang.
1.redhorse
2. Smb
3. gin
hahahhaa joke lang pow e2…. hindi ko tlga nigagagwang uminom tpos ng break up… hahahahhahaha!
yeah,,boo hoo crew rocks,,
tlgang maasahan moh cla in tyms of break-up,,they will be the one who will cheer you up in tyms of loneliness,,haha..
grabe ha drama naman ng break up na kailangan pa ng boo hoo crew…pero hindi ako pwedeng kunin na part ng crew…hahaha…mayayamot lng sa akin ung nkipag break…baka mgsuicide pa
boo-hoo crew…i guess i dont need to create one because i have few true friend who were always there…when you cant reach your armpit to pluck those bunch of hair sticking out(hahaha yikes)…when you cry like a baby and your mucus is blowing like a bubble….(thats not me)….or when you got bankrupt and loose everything..they are always there standing still beside you like the statue of jose rizal in luneta park..wipping your tears like an infinite absorbent towel…hearing your thousand times same old story cries….and im really proud of them!!!thankful that we crossed paths…
yeah friends are great they are your best shock absorber….
and i do think that everyone survives break- up
AT THE RIGHT TIME.
hahaha., the boo hoo crew., now i know what to call my friends.,
boo hoo crew…
sken i consider my frenz as my boo hoo crew..
sila tkbuhan q if i hav a problem..
lalo n pgdting s break up..
then..after nun..wla n…bak 2 normal n lng ulit..
bkit p xe my gnun pg naiinlove eh!!!..
hahaha…
pwede bng boo-hoo crew n lang?! pasira s buhay ang luvlife eh.. haha.. irony in lyf, u always know wats ryt for others, pero pag sarili mo ng prolema, mahina kn! aiun un eh!
Boo-Hoo crew pala tawag dun.. Wahahaha!
I think meron na kong ganyan.. Yung mga cute girls ng BPS IR 4-2 specially yung mga kamag-anakan ko.. Wahaahah..
wow, ok un ha… mabuhay ang boo hoo crew!!!!!
naku…. palagi nlang aq nasa2ma sa crew na 2…. ang saya! haha! go!
think i can never be a Boo-Hoo Crew!!!
hahaha!!!
Boo!!!
Hoo!!!
Boo!!! Boo!!!
Hoo!!! Hoo!!! Hoo!!!
hehehe!!!
Friends nga naman talaga…
ok un ah..buti na lang di ko kylangan pa ng BOO HOO CREW…
I read somewhere that when people are rejected, a certain hormone stimulates the part of the brain that controls addiction. That’s why sometimes we find it hard to erase other people in our hearts even if we are gone in theirs.
hehehe…boo-hoo crew rocks!!!!
hehehehe…..
i have them really!!!!hehehe…
ngayon ko lang napagtanto tlaga!!!!
hehehe….
peo kung ako man ung mging boo-hoo…
wala lang ako gagawin…
hehehe..makikinig lang ako sa nguy-nguy nia….
saka sa mga bitterness nia….
ayoko mgsalita…
cgurado nman ako na matanda na siya at alm niya an tama sa mali..hehehehe….
di ba???
boo-hoo crew..un pala ang tawag sa tropang sisraan ang ex mo para gumaan pkiramdam mo..hahaha..joke!
well..aside from parents definitely FRIENDS will help alot..and I mean for me, mas malaki tulong nila..kc surely there are stuffs you can’t share with your parents but you can with that boo-hoo crew or whatever you call it.
..ako..since wla nmang dapat iyakan sakin..ako eh dakilang member ng boo-hoo crew ng mga kaibigan ko..
huh????
anu b un???andi2 p b q sa earth bkit mukha atang d aq mkrel8 s topics about brek-ups….
but anyway…tama nmn lahat ng cnv don eh…how shud we able to move on without our friends and sumone that we can lean on?????jejeje!!!saklap ng buhay pg ganun….
cguro my sisters would be my big help…ung mga taong magpapasaya skin tapos sasabihin, lalaki lng yan, iyosi nlng ntin.. (kahit hndi me nagyoyosi..hehe..)..^__^V
boo hoo crew din ba yung tawag sa Redhorse????? hahahahahha!
hindi jok lang pow…. masarap lang kung mag iinuman man… yung mga kakwentohan mo,,,,, yung mga kaibigan mong kakwentuhan mo,, yun ang nagpapasarap sa inuman….
but sometimes the Boo-Hoo Crew would not work the way they are suppose to…you know why?…because the “break up victim” wouldn’t let them to..reasons were that the “break up victim is still going gaga over her/his ex.It’s like she/he doesn’t want any help.Normally that happens.So meaning,at the end of the dayit would still be “you” …yes, “you miss/mr.victim who would help yourself out of that break up…hmm..
boo hoo crew is the best place ever in the world because we find comfort and safety with them in the aftermath of break ups…good thing i have some…=)
…just contact me if ur willing and able to be my “boo hoo crew”!!!
………..hahahahahha………….
boo hoo crew?
COOL name……
hehehehe….
boo-hoo crew?aus..haha..so far,di ko pa naman kinakailangan nyan..haha..pero na-try ko ng maging part ng isang “boo-hoo crew”..well,all i can say is that..you can always count on your “true friends”..and problems come and go,sometimes,you have to learn to face them on your own,its not at all times na someone’s there for you kasi minsan may sarili din silang burden..
Sa tingin ko you don’t have to compose something like that kasi if you have “good” friends enough to care for you, they will definitely find ways to make you smile again and survive break-ups…At saka dun mo din malalaman kung sino talaga sa mga kaibigan mo ang handang damayan ka sa lahat ng oras..
-XVII-
i have my boo hoo crew..
i love them!!
hahaha!!!
ayos yan ah..
BOO-HOO crew inom tau..
well i think BOO-HOO crew is not enough to overcome crazy or either funniest things we did after break-ups, for me, the WILLINGNESS to MOVE ON of a person is an enough factor to overcome it, I mean the enough COURAGE and STRENGTH, kasi di ba, “paano ka tutulungan ng mga tao sa paligid mo kung ikaw mismo sa sarili mo eh hindi mo tinutulungan?”, useless din if you have BOO-HOO crew, right?
my boo-hoo crew..
syempre ang magaganda kong friends..
wag kalimutan ang BBS..
hehe..
boo-hoo…. i need one in the future… hahahahaha…. that future may come to fast… lol
Meron ako nito >.>
pero di ko na cla nagagamit nowadays ^__^
boo-hoo..hehe
a nice article
ah ganun! cge gugulphin kita mamaya!
sa klasrum natin! wah i miss you!! di ako nasawa!
wow!!! as in wow!!superb!!!may ganun pala…something you can rely on after a break-up..
anyway, it will always depends upon you..who ought to move on and who should move on when love is not just enough to stay any longer…
that’s one of the hardest part of life..moving on..sbe nga nung mga korny na text consciously your breathing but inside your dying…and of course time. ..yeah take it from me..time heals…and when it does you’ll finally moved on..
“understanding is the first step to acceptance and only with acceptance can there be recovery…
boo-hoo!
hahahaha..
just move on people..
ako toh sir..hahaha.. ampanget ng name.. can we change it?haha..boo-hoo-crew in short bruhako..whahahahaha
woah?
BOO HOO CREW?
watta niCe Term hEkHek!
Ung BOO hOO CrEw kO uHm
1 yosi
2 tmbay alone
3 music
pro nde problema ang break up ang dme p jan ahooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
, i dunn0 kng aware kau s stages of depression..
.., i think thats an easier guide though, puede n rN 2..
an pNgit Lng tLga nung tag, pRang kuLt0 na Gang n dnCe gRoup n ewan.. ^ ^
-®ai
Hehe…nakakatawa ung article.. Ang cute nung name Boo-Hoo Crew…peo sa article na ito pinakita ang kahalagahan ng friends. How they will help you in times na malungkot kayo, naguguluhan after break up. Mahalaga talaga ang friendship. para sa akin mahirap mabuhay ng walang friends (you know so lonely hehe..) Ang mga kaibigan na makakasama mo sa hirap at ginhawa….till death do us part (hala hehe may ganun)
Cge sir… kpag nagkroon ako ng first ever qu.. at kpag nkpag-break ako s knya I wil tke ur advices..hehe
pano kng ung nkkpagbreak eh ung frend n supportive and caring pra sau?
hhhhaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy break up!
wla lan…
better to be friends! juz remember nlng ung ksbhan n “KNG KAU TLGA. KAU TLGA!”
waw, may mga gnun p?hahaha
ayos ah.
boo hoo crew..
boo hoo crew..
boo hoo crew..
nkaka adik!!
haha.. nl2gyan q n ng tono!!
waaaaaaa
breaking up is hard to do, getting over is hard to do, but being one of the boo hoo crew is the very diffucult thing a friend can do…
payo ka ng payo na kalimutan na ang ex ng friend mo pero ano, isang malaking bingi ang kausap mo, tapos mababasa pa ang balikat mo, buti kung luha lang yun pero may kasama pang uhog. ay naku boo hoo crew is a profesion…
madaling maka get over kung lagi mong kasama ang iyong pamilya at kaibigan kaysa nagmumukmok ka sa sulok at waring ika’y namatayan at nagluluksa sa inyong break up…
actually, it is rili possible to someone n makamove-on agad… pano?? khit isang minuto makalipas ng breyk up niyo magagawa u…..
wag ung isiping nakilala u xa… tapos.
another break up again?!
bkit ganon…
why start if it will just end…
why end if you already started…
the end justifies the mean..
ergo, if you mean forever, dont break…
My Boo-Hoo crew has been with me for like always! I also believe with what this article have talk about. Hhmm.. sir huh, you’re inspired to write this thing. Ahehe..
boo-hoo? nkkanakaw ng attention huh??? infairnez..,, just muv on n lng tlaga… pero kung yw u nman…. btter drink poison… hakhak! ( sira ulo)
i don’t have a boo-hoo crew!shame!
break up month ata november @_@
grrrr (effin bitter)
boo-hoo crew?
auz ahh….=)
may boo-hoo crew poh q…
Sekta naman ang twag…hehehe
,isa lng ang masa2bi q sir!!!
kung gusto mo ang isang babae eh pilitin nting makuha ah maagaw dahil asawa nga eh naaagw pa ung xuta pa kaya tsaka may kasabihan “ang babae eh parng basketboll pinipilit mong makuha makatira lang!!! wahahah”
am boo-hoo crew?… sali ako!!
…sana nandyan ang mga Boo-Hoo ko kapag nangyari ang bagay n yan sakin …
…kung wala naman ikain mo n lang yan.,, busog ka pa….
…thank you for the tips….
heh..ok ah!! tip na naman saken un!! hindi lang pala kayo basta perof na political governance eh.. prof din sa love!!
hehe..ok ah!! tip na naman saken un!! hindi lang pala kayo basta perof na political governance eh.. prof din sa love!!
sir, kau b tlaga yan??
hehe..galing ah, kah8 anu pla pd ihingi ng advice senyo!
ahmm gnito n try to think with a clear mind!! un lang